The Meaning of Assertiveness

Early in the morning, a student came facing the teacher. His faces looked haggard lack of sleep. But his spirit is still burning, it was clear from his eyes. The teacher saw his studnet caming earlier than usual, make him wondered. Especially seeing his faces which clearly seen look haggard. "What is it my student?", The Teacher greet.

"Good Morning Teacher. I'm sorry I came early in the morning. There are student things which student want to ask. Student can't sleep all night because student can not remember the story of Master's yesterday. I agree that the cruel and despotic leaders said to be more evil than the tiger. Tiger prey only when it stomach feel hungry or it life threatened. But humans are more distant than that. Cruel. Greedy. But the students could not understand how a mother chose to stay in the woods, with a very high risk of death. "

"Just because you are thinking about yesterday's story did not sleep all night my disciple?", Asked his teacher. "Oh, certainly not about the story was just Teacher, but linkages. Pupils confuse about assertive, hard and cruel. Leadership is not necessarily smooth, just comply with what the people wants, just become a nice people and so on. Pupils even read the story of Kong Zi Ren Sheng who annoyed and beat feet Yuan Rang, his own old friend whose behavior outrageous and not worthy of praise. "

"Alright my students, one by one I will answer your questions. The mother preferred to live in the jungle with the risk devoured by tiger for three reasons. Firstly as you have to say myself, tiger prey only when disturbed or hungry. But man is more evil, let alone a leader who prey on anyone because of greed and arrogance. "
"Second, the heaviest risk if she meet the tiger is dead. But the die is sheer physical. If she meet someone who is evil, next to death she can also lose her pride and even honor.

For a woman especially. There are many stories about womanizer ruler who casually snatch the honor of the girls and wives of people ", said the teacher continued. Meanwhile, the Crown Prince sat still and listened to teacher.

"Third, this is the most important, the mother and also those of others, often ignoring all danger, when they was already losing hope. What good are living longer thought the mother, when seeing the people who she loved most die one by one? While hopes have died seized by the Lord of cruelty? ".

"Student now understand. Hope is the most important in the life of a human being. People who have lost hope, actually died, although his body was still alive. Living his physique, but his soul is dead. Thank you, Master, today's students receive a new wisdom pearl from the teacher. Being a leader, he must be able to bring hope for who he led. To be able to bring hope, of course, first he must be trusted by all, especially by the one he led ".

"Good, youare a good learner. Every informed about one point, you are able to develop and diligent search for the other three points" Praise The Teacher, citing one of Kong Zi Ren Sheng greeting that very famous, which in essence it was a form of advice for if we were told or given a lesson about something, we must learn it well and continue to be develop it, so the result will be optimal.

"Now I will give examples of the difference between a firm leader, and the leader of the hard and cruel leader. The leader of the firm, sometimes act tough, which might by some people even considered cruel. But between the firm and hard and cruel, no line distinguishing clear, namely: the values, norms, rules, or law. "


"The leader of the firm, courageous decision, though perhaps his choices all heavy and difficult. He dared to take risks, but things would have been through a thorough consideration and measurable, based on the values, norms, rules, and laws. The leader of the firm could make the decision to float sometimes. Not because he hesitant or indecisive, but because he believes that the floating is required at least temporarily, as a strategy to finalize the situation. "
"The hard leaders are a little different. He was more like to make hard decisions, rather than a soft approach. However, although his action is hard, he was not a cruel leader, for all his actions are still based on the values, norms, rules, and laws . Well, beyond that, the only arbitrary with no basis, just wants everything for his own, that's a cruel leader. "